TW: I get real about periods, pain, hospitals and gynae stuff. Stay safe.
So I (26) basically am just here to tell you what has been happening.
So on Friday, we went to the medical appointment. Nineteen was her usual badass self and took us into the appointment, braved the waiting room and then the actual appointment.
She went in, sat down, and the doctor practically started asking questions as she sat down! He asked her whether she had pain all the time, where it was, if it hurt to have sex… She answered everything in her usual nineteen way, a little bit flippant but truthfully. She let him know when the pain started and that she had been having problems with awful pain and bleeding for most of her life.
He was calm and just got on with the facts. He asked her if she had had any children. We don’t count the miscarriage as having a child, because she was never born, so she said no. He also asked her if he could do an internal examination but she said no, on behalf of all of us, cause we do that thing where we agree to it them freak out later. She decided it was better to keep us safe.
He was fine with that and then basically told us we were going to have a laparoscopy. I absolutely melted. I was so incredibly relieved! Nineteen kept her head and asked various questions, such as whether not having an internal exam now would cause problems and what would happen. The doctor explained that he could do th exam whilst we were under anaesthetic (a huge relief!) and that he would check to see what was wrong.
He thought it was probably one of three things- one, a chronic appendix, two, a twisted ovary (they can untwist it during surgery but if it’s dead, it has to go) or endometriosis.
Today, I rang the Endometriosis UK helpline to ask them some of my questions, such as will the heart stuff stop us from getting surgery? The lady on the helpline didn’t think so, but she did think that I should ask the hospital that. She reassured me that an anaesthetic is actually a fairly pleasant experience, and isn’t as scary as we thought. One minute you’re talking to someone, the next, you’re awake and in a different room. She explained that there might be some pain in our shoulder blades from the gas, and that they will write a report on their findings. I was encouraged to get a copy of that report- apparently it’s a right and we should be able to get copies of whatever we request fairly easily.
All that remains now is to stay calm and wait for the surgery. I have a list of things to ask but I’m pleased that we will finally have answers.
Massive thanks are due to the Dutchman, lovely as always, and to the friends and family who always keep us floating. Puppy, too, has been lovely. I also want to thank everyone who keeps on reading, commenting or liking the posts I upload- you guys are amazing.
The consultant thinks it’s endometriosis. Yet another huge diagnosis that may or may not be right. However, in my personal experience, I’ve been right about PTSD, DID and Bipolar. I was right about my back not being fully better, right about the scar tissue there and right about needing further physio to fix it. I kind of hope in one way that I’m wrong this time, but I don’t think I am.
At any rate, here’s to answers after fifteen long years of awful periods, baffling times where there was pain but no bleeding, difficulty in having sex and, since May, non-stop pain. It will be a relief to know what the problem is.