I have been trying to tell this exact thing to everyone who has been giving the often untrue diagnosis of BPD. I think there has to be compelling proof that you were BORN BPD for you to possibly have it, and abuse should not be a factor in discovering if you have it. Therefore, a lot of people who believe they have BPD and that the abuse caused it have been told something wrong about themselves. Your reactions to the outside world were damaged because of the abuse, and it is NOT your personality which was damaged. Please believe thateven if you were born BPD, you can change how you react to life. Google neuroplasticity if you don’t believe me.